Men and Domestic Abuse

A few days ago I read a blog post by the wonderful Johnny Void about the effect IDS’ welfare reforms will have on women’s refuges. It’s a bloody good post and highlights a very important issue.

Unless you’ve found yourself in a refuge, temporary accommodation or a homeless hostel you might not realise how much it costs to be there. When I was homeless due to domestic abuse, after the maximum housing benefit award (pre LHA days) I had to pay an additional £7.70 a week (the first time) and £8.80 a week (the second time). That was for one room, one bed for myself and my daughter. A shared toilet, bathroom and kitchen. So I applaud Mr Void for highlighting the issue.

When I’d finished reading the post I scrolled down to the comments. They are what have prompted me to write this post.

As a survivor of domestic abuse I support all services that are available for victims, and there are many, both nationally and locally, all around the UK (google your local service). They include specialist support for men, women, the LGBT community and different ethnicities. The support is not solely for women, although that appeas to be the widely held view.

It is true that the support solely for men and LGBT is not as vast as Womens Aid/Refuge’s network, but it does exist. I was in a refuge where a father was staying with his daughter. They were fleeing domestic abuse. Our local council sees no difference between male or female victims.

It saddens me greatly that some people jump up and down when Womens Aid are mentioned, because they are an organisation for women. I don’t jump up and down because ManKind is a service for men. I’m glay they both exist. I hope that one day the provision for male, female and LGBT victims are all equally vast.

I’d also like to point out that it was Womens Aid who helped me encourage a male friend to seek legal advice about an ex girlfriend. He got an injunction and she stopped abusing him and his children.

Below is a list of contact for ALL victims of domestic abuse.

Men
ManKind
National helpline: 01823 334244
http://www.mankind.org.uk
Admin@mankind.org.uk

Mens Advice Line (run by Respect)
0808 801 0327
http://www.mensadviceline.org.uk
Info@mensadviceline.org.uk

Respect
Twitter: @RespectUK
http://www.respect.uk.net

Esteem
01209 202688 (office)
07825 220 232 (mobile)
http://www.esteemmen.co.uk
Enquiries@esteemmen.co.uk

LGBT
Broken rainbow UK
0300 999 5428
http://www.broken-rainbow.uk.uk
Help@brokenrainbow.org.uk

London Lesbian And Gay Switchboard
0300 330 0630
http://www.llgs.org.uk
Chris@llgs.org.uk

LGBT Cymru Helpline
0808 840 2069
http://www.lgbtcymruhelpline.org.uk
Line@lgbtcymruhelpline.org.uk

Women
Womens Aid
0808 2000 247
http://www.womensaid.org.uk
Helpline@womensaid.org.uk

Refuge
0808 2000 247
http://www.refuge.org.uk
Info@refuge.org.uk

If you are in immediate danger.
Please do not hesitate to dial 999!

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Posted on September 20, 2012, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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